One of the hardest things about the shift work is making time for erhm. . sex.
There are also the differences between men and women to figure out
There are also you know, all normal pains that come with being a cop.
So, Last week I talked about staying fit together. Added benefit, the sex gets better
I don't know how it works, something about smells (although I don't buy for one second that gym sock smell turns a person on!)
Here is what I do know:
1. Being physical in a way that is not just Physical helps the Physical (follow along?)
2. Communication is key
3. Make time (A passing in the night 5 am quicky is a good thing!)
4. Make time!!
5. Be aware of the other person's needs (I need to be NOT physical at times and T-rex NEEDS a physical connection)
There is no quick fix if this part of the relationship is hurting, just remember to talk about it, and sometimes you might need to shut up and just do it! We recently had to talk about how the shift work was affecting that part of our marriage, something in the busyness that is life we hadn't even really looked at! How sad!! Look at your physical relationship, talk about it, and then, as other police wives have said "go make some cookies!"
There also also a lot of tools out there to help keep the marriage strong, the physical part is only one part of your relationship, don't forget to keep connected on ALL parts.