tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14778275633103767492024-03-13T01:24:03.677-07:00Ammo in the DryerThe life of a cop's wife. Being married to a Police Officer can be fun!Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.comBlogger191125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-5339637576727243322017-06-10T21:06:00.005-07:002017-06-10T21:06:59.843-07:00random bullets <div class="MsoNormal">
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-73954982114528720052017-06-03T19:07:00.000-07:002017-06-03T19:07:06.731-07:00Top 10 Things to do when the Cop is working nights. <span style="font-size: large;">1. Take a nap! </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"> D. Listen to music as you clean</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">3. Read a book (although if you have kids or pets this will never really get done)</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">4. Work out - again no music going</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">5. Watch TV - just not the show you watch together</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">7. Start a blog (why not?!)</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">8. Stay up way too late!</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">9. Get a random yet quite hobby</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">10. Just take a nap</span>!<br />
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So yeah I tend to flip over more than I should to nights when it is summer vacation, it makes it hard to function with kids, but it is so hard to stay motivated when T-rex is asleep.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Do you see this wonderful even stitching? Yeah, it looks great. I can feel proud of it even though it is not done yet. But it wasn't always this way. When I first learned how to crochet a girl at school had brought in some stuff and taught us how to do a chain. It was all the rage (4th grade girls are a little dumb)! I loved it and had chains going for miles. But at first that was all I could do. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"> Over time I wanted to make something more, and with the little money and even less yarn around I had to take apart my chains, tie them together and learn how to make the chains stick together. My first several attempts were total crap. Over time I got I got better and soon I learned how to make this thing, well kind of. The stitches were not even, and the whole thing kept getting smaller and smaller until it was a pyramid type potholder. But I did it, sort of. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"> Soon I learned how to keep the ends from shrinking, and the with even more scraps I was able to get the stitches more even. I even made Dino's baby blanket and it has outlasted some beautifully made blankets from grandparents. This pure white blanket is my newest creation. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"> I still only know how to do this one stitch. Although I recently have started to look at other stitches to do. I like this one, it is simple. I don't count, I don't think, I just go. I have done it so much that I can do it all day (until my hands hurt). But I see pretty blankets and I want to try something new. You see, recently I have been home with no guidance, no classes to take (avoid homework!) No reason to even put pants on most days! And it is hard. We need something to reach for, something to work towards. A goal, and something to finish. Something to check off the to-do list. Sure I have dishes and washing, and housewife/mom stuff, but nothing for me, and nothing that is ever actually completed. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"> It is important to feel something is done. A case to be closed, a court date to be completed, a test passed. So for me, for right now I will make this blanket, and next time I will try a new stitch, and when it is a hot mess I will try again until I have mastered it as well as I have this. </span>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-5678227643230909762017-05-25T16:49:00.000-07:002017-05-25T16:49:07.617-07:00Play cards<div class="MsoNormal">
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-28705269435870474232017-05-24T16:33:00.000-07:002017-05-24T16:33:05.176-07:00Budget <div class="MsoNormal">
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<span style="font-family: "calibri"; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-spacerun: 'yes';">So here we sit working our way out of the hole we put ourselves in. Many things have been sold, and there is more to go. Many things have been given up, and many more things will be skipped. That is just the way it is going to be. But I swear if I read one more post that tells me to give up expensive coffee and manicures I might flip! If I was broke (and I am ) the first thing I would do is drop coffee runs and anything else I don’t need. But also if I am broke, and cutting corners all over a nice coffee date at 10 bucks might just be what I need to keep going. So let me enjoy it without guilt! </span><span style="font-family: "calibri"; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-spacerun: 'yes';"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-9999726086421947922017-05-22T16:17:00.000-07:002017-05-22T16:17:02.221-07:00Change <div class="MsoNormal">
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-8154595179797753412016-10-03T20:22:00.000-07:002016-10-03T20:22:12.661-07:00Make Time!! One of the hardest things about the shift work is making time for erhm. . sex.<br />
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There are also the differences between men and women to figure out<br />
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There are also you know, all normal pains that come with being a cop.<br />
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So, Last week I talked about staying fit together. Added benefit, the sex gets better<br />
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I don't know how it works, something about smells (although I don't buy for one second that gym sock smell turns a person on!) <br />
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1. Being physical in a way that is not just Physical helps the Physical (follow along?)<br />
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3. Make time (A passing in the night 5 am quicky is a good thing!)<br />
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5. Be aware of the other person's needs (I need to be NOT physical at times and T-rex NEEDS a physical connection)<br />
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There is no quick fix if this part of the relationship is hurting, just remember to talk about it, and sometimes you might need to shut up and just do it! We recently had to talk about how the shift work was affecting that part of our marriage, something in the busyness that is life we hadn't even really looked at! How sad!! Look at your physical relationship, talk about it, and then, as other police wives have said "go make some cookies!" <br />
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There also also a lot of tools out there to help keep the marriage strong, the physical part is only one part of your relationship, don't forget to keep connected on ALL parts.Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-91271091625209063082016-09-28T16:00:00.000-07:002016-09-28T16:00:17.249-07:00Staying Fit on the Night ShiftOkay, really this could be just a motivational thing for ME! I am not fit, and I am not on the night shift. <br />
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Finding time to workout can be hard when life is so busy!<br />
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We all see the ads for different workout programs, and the truth is I love some of them! I have joined some groups, started new things, some have helped some not so much.<br />
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But that really makes me sad when I only have 30 minutes on average with T-rex any given week.<br />
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35 minutes later T-rex is done with his workout and smelling like a gym sock. I have spent the last 30 minutes watching cat videos on YouTube. But I did find some good stuff on the YouTube spiral that happens, More marriage advice :) <br />
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More on this next week, but for now, watch the Video!!<br />
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I also suggest getting a home binder to keep everything in order. Anything would work! I have really liked this one from Amazon, but before that we just used a spiral notebook with lists, and notes to each other. We kept it on the kitchen counter and checked it as we got ready for our day. . . . no matter what time that was.</div>
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-46651443298673822462016-08-28T18:05:00.000-07:002016-09-25T20:24:50.483-07:00Love of Old dead peopleFalling in love with some old dead white dude.<br />
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It really is what History Teachers do.<br />
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But OMG why did I not have a class on President Garfield!!<br />
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He is awesome!<br />
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I love the way he wrote. <br />
They all wrote so nice "back in the day"<br />
Could be my new Favorite President. <br />
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All because of the book Destiny of the Republic. WOW.<br />
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So kinda a long title, but that is where I am at. I have had some problems with "clients" at work. So okay students. . .their parents. . . .<br />
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I love what I do all day, but there are times where I feel far less than capable, and it gets hard when no one ever says "yeah you are a good teacher!" <br />
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T-rex does not have advice to help this. He always ends it with "Eh, I just don't let that bother me anymore"<br />
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WTH?<br />
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That does not help!! Do you know what would help. . . Chocolate, a nap, some flowers, tickets for everyone who annoys me. . . .You know the things like that.<br />
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OHHH but I better not joke about that. . . .or anything .. .. I wish everyone had a cop's idea of funny. It would make things much easier if no one would get offended. <br />
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Oh and I bet it is easy to let things go when you know if it gets really bad you CAN give a ticket, or something. . .But that is just a theory.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "calibri"; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun;">4. </span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-family: "calibri"; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun; mso-spacerun: 'yes';">Turn into that person who vacuums at 10pm</span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "calibri"; mso-bidi-font-family: 'Times New Roman'; mso-fareast-font-family: SimSun;"><br /></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">We rotate shifts here, and there are good and bad to all of them. On Nights I do love the bed to myself, I am a night person. But I also hate that he is not home, that I cannot make sure T-rex is okay. <br /><br />On Days I could get things done around the house or whatever. I also know what time he should be home and we can eat together. I have to share my bed! He snores. The Dogs want to sleep with him. <br /><br />I would say that my least favorite shift is Mids. He goes from 1:30-1:30. What the heck!! No meals together, No bed time together, no seeing the kids after school, and when did he really get home?! Then he sleeps all day. It is an evil shift. I hate mids. <br /><br />I lied, there is not good and bad to all of them, One of them is a dumb shift that I hate. </span><br />
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-25080101578589012612016-08-14T06:45:00.001-07:002016-08-14T06:45:42.295-07:00<br />
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<br /><br /><span style="font-size: large;">It is easy to get caught up in the slow pace of the small town. A place where a DUI, some kids at a party, and cow calls are a busy day. There is a feeling of no worry, if the officer is late getting home it is because he was talking with the guys at the office, not because something happened that he now has to deal with. <br /><br /> <br /><br />HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH<br /><br /> <br /><br />I cannot lie, most days are clam. But even after all the deaths, parties, DUIs, fights, and so on T-rex has had to deal with, we had a new one. A chase. I don’t know what it is about this area, but people actually think they can run?! A chase scares me. Just NO. I don’t want it to happen. It seems like nothing good can come out of going 80mph on a dirt farm road. </span><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-3492733717673701962016-08-07T04:15:00.001-07:002016-08-07T04:15:47.545-07:00<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><br /><br />I don’t think it ever does get any easier. Perhaps it even gets harder with time. The bew bew bew sound of the radio alarm goes off with a painful cry. The kiss goodbye almost feels ere, not comforting. This was the first early morning call out in our small town after the many police shootings in our nation. This was the first in our small town where the suspect had a gun. This was the first I overheard what was happening. I liked it better when the officers were called on their phone. This also was going to take place just two blocks over. I remind myself that the town is so small, everything is just a few blocks over. I remind myself that the call was going happen if I heard it or not, and now I was able to help pull out boots. I remind myself that gun are not bad. I remind myself that a kiss goodbye happens on good days. I remind him to put a vest on. I remind him I love him. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Outside my window I can hear more and more of our officers running to the danger. I know he is not alone. I know that good will prevail today, at any cost. It is that cost I am sick of paying. It feels deeply personal every time an officer pays that price. It is my family. It is a person who would do anything to keep me safe. We have already paid too much, our blue family may come home, but it is never over. </span>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-5928675426560862962012-12-16T22:42:00.000-08:002012-12-16T22:42:20.448-08:00
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">I have never really had much to say about gun laws. I
usually feel inadequate expressing sorrow for a tragic event such as what
happened in the elementary school today. But over the last several hours I have
been able to look at the events and my own life, like we all have. For the
first time in years I cried for children I did not even know, but I cried for
my own also. My children are the same ages as the children in that school,
something not unique to me. My children could have been there. It is easy to
put myself in the shoes of the parents who lost a child today, or a parent who
was so blessed to bring their child home. The trauma all the children now face
is beyond my ability to understand. There is a fake news site (one that I
personally cannot stand) that posted an article about the events, they put into
worlds quite well what I think most people are feeling right now “Fuck this
shit I can’t fucking deal with it!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yep.
That really is all we can say right now. The best thing I have ever been told
when I was facing a loss of my own was “Well, This suck!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because it does, but nothing anyone says or
does will undo what was done.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don’t
think this is the time to start the argument over “more guns or less guns”
“more God, or more tolerance, and understanding” Truth be told, I wanted more
guns in the RIGHT hands and less guns in the criminal hands.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I prayed and I cannot understand or tolerate
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">But because the topic of Gun control, and such has come up
it has be on my mind today as well. I don’t think we as a nation can make an
emotional choice on this topic, and I know we are highly charged emotionally.
When looking at the data, the understanding of good and evil, the mindset of
people, teachers, cops, and others there is no simple solution to this problem
we have.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Here is what I know: Gun crimes
kill more people when the good guys don’t have a way to protect themselves.
Every choice we make has the potential to snowball into dire states. Let us say
we unarm all of America, Crime WILL go up, the government WILL become too
powerful, Innocent people WILL die, more children WILL die.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do not be like the Jews and say “That cannot
happen!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because it can, it has, and it
WILL again if we let it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">Let us say we take the other extreme and arm the teachers
and school staff. Let’s start out with just one armed officer at each and every
school. Things will take time, but the schools WILL become a prison, the
students will be taught by the military (not called the military clearly!)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But order WILL be held at all times, with an
armed guard. Our governments WILL dictate more and more of what a student can
and cannot do, learn, and think, and before we know it our nation will be
enslaved by propaganda. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: large;">So what is the solution?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Go back to homeschooling?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No,
there are cases that show that is no safer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Embrace the arming of everyone?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Maybe?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Unarm everyone? (I want a
fighting chance against my enslavement thank you very much!) No.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The simple truth is that there is NO
solution. Good and evil will always fight for balance. There will always be
sick unhealthy people out there. And the sad truth is that this SUCKS, but
there is nothing that can be done to stop it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What we can do is the best we can do to keep ourselves safe, our
children safe, and understand that life really does just suck at times. Raise
YOUR children the best you can, love strong, forgive always.</span> </span></div>
Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-1826896315784052082012-09-08T18:56:00.002-07:002012-09-08T18:56:40.753-07:00The day I found Ammo in the dryer
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I have had this blog for a few years now. I write here and
there, but the name has always made me smile. I think I got it from a list of “you
know you are a police wife when . . . .” you find ammo in the dryer.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I did the wash like I always do, but stayed in the laundry
room to fold some cloths with the dryer going, something I rarely do. It was a
good thing I stayed, I heard a clink, clink, clink in the dryer and went to
check. Sure enough in T-rex’s pants pocket was one un-shoot bullet. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">SO, I did what any great police wife would do. I took a
picture of it and sent it to T-rex. Then things got really fun!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I never text T-rex when he is at work because
most of the time he is driving around. It took him a few minutes but he called
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Then I didn’t hear from him for an hour. Our whole county is
just about an hour drive, and if they are speeding it wouldn’t take that long,
right?!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So I was just about to panic
when I get a text from him “Not a chase, just a man hunt”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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and the air I fresh, then the kids got up. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Actually it wasn’t that bad today. The kids were okay, but I
had too much peace when they were asleep. It gave me time to think, and yet I sit
down to write it and I cannot remember anything but how I need to clean the
playroom. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Yesterday my mom and I had like an hour long conversation on
the benefits of rose <s>flavored </s>fragranced Toilet paper. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Last week I saw the old doctor across the way bring the old
lady next door some cookies or something. It was a cute moment.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Today UPS dropped off my third history book for my next classes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is the THIRD book and it’s bigger than
my bible. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">With the Olympics going on I think I can do some of that . .
. so I started to work out. It lasted two day, I have a blister. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am doing my history paper on the Panama Canal.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is due next week, I haven’t started. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">T-rex is on nights. Nothing about that . . . other than it
explains some of the crazy. </span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-39818891747906720312012-07-21T21:01:00.000-07:002012-07-21T21:01:02.857-07:00I didn't drop off the face of the blog world . . . Yet. . . I don't think . .<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Things have been good.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>But just Good, and then not too hot, and then you know, OKAY.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>O.K.A.Y.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>And we have been happy in OKAY for the last few months.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It’s the middle years of being a police officer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>About 7 years right now, some of that time in
the jail, some on the road, but 7 years seeing the trash society spits out can
make a person well. …..Just OKAY.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">There is nothing wrong with Okay, only that it is not
great!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>T-rex and I have also been
married for almost 9 years. . .we are doing Okay. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Well sometimes we are doing WOW AWESOME!!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And other times I try to think of places to
put the body . . .but that’s all okay. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">T-rex is getting to the point where the job is just another
job, and that is fine, we all get that way with things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have days where there is nothing you can do
to get me motivated to take care of the kids, so I do it halfass and call it
day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Other days I am like amazing mom
with book reading powers and owe kisses to save the world.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yeah I rock that much! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I guess the hard part for me right now is that I can’t see
my life without T-rex being a police officer in some way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He is part cowboy here; it is in his blood
kind of thing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Without that he would
change and so would I.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is nothing
wrong with change, and I want him to be happy, but he is a police officer and I
am a police wife that is just how it is.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>So seeing the satisfaction level drop a million points is hard. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Not to mention in a life where there is no stability I just
now found some and he isn’t really feeling it. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I wonder if he and the department can get some therapy like
couples therapy?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wonder how that would
even go:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">T-rex: “You made me miss dinner again!”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Department: “It’s because I need you!”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">T-rex “You gave me a bad evaluation on something I do
amazing awesome on!”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Department “I am sorry!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>You are so much better than you have been this last week.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">T-rex “yeah well, I haven’t gotten any sleep, and I don’t want
to deal with dumb people anymore”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Therapist: “how could you two help each other to be better
to one another?”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="mso-tab-count: 2;"> </span>Oh
T-rex if only you knew that now that your eyes were open to the dumb people you
would see them everywhere for the rest of your life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If your wife can spot a drunk driver now
there is no hope of going back. </span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-24582461738671993182012-05-25T10:22:00.000-07:002012-05-25T10:22:14.196-07:00Don’t forget your coffee!<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">There are no words to explain the feeling a police wife has
when her husband is called out in the middle of the night, to go do who knows
what, and he will be back when he is back. And we say WHEN even if there are
moments of fear that it might be IF. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">Today is a rainy, windy, stay at home and watch a movie day.
T-rex just got done working a 12 hour night shift. He stayed up to chill out
thinking this was going to be his day off and he wanted to get switched around.
About two hours after falling asleep he gets a call “Time go gear up and go” I
hear yelling from the room to find T-rex trying to get awake and dressed. All I
am ever told is “I got to go” sometimes I might get more information after
everything is done, but the truth is sometimes he doesn’t even know what is
going on until he is in the middle of it. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I do my best to be the good wife, make him
some coffee and find his pants (wives always find the pants). Still it’s too
soon and he gone. I am left alone with more questions than answers. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">I know it is part of the job, I know I am not the only wife
who has to deal with this, it just stinks. Tomorrow is Lilly’s birthday. There
is so much to do and I suddenly just want to sit around the phone. I know that
sitting around the phone will not help me at all, and will drive me and
everyone nuts. Still the worry, or stress, or something takes hold and I feel unsettled
until he comes back home. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">Maybe it is just habit, maybe I am a little nuts, but I sit
and run my plan in my head at least once within the first hour or two of him
being gone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I would move back home, I would
stay with his parents until I could get on my feet, my kids would go to their
aunt’s house for daycare, we will stay near family, I will pay off school and
get a job. The plan is just to make sure the kids and I don’t starve to death, I
can’t think of anything else. I am sure that type of pressure on him is not
good, I hope he knows that there is a plan and that we would keep going.... I can’t
add emotions to it, there are already too many emotions going. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: large;">I took the kids to the store, Rae needed new shoes, and she
always needs new shoes!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I felt so detached
from everything; even a distraction that keeps my mind off T-rex does not keep
my mind in the here and now. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s not
that I cannot function; there is just a weight in the air.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s not that I cannot be happy; I just wish
he was here. The unknown is also hard for me. I know some people can deal with
it, I just wish that I knew.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: large;">So for today, we will go about our day with a lot of unknowns,
and some worry.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is something about
your husband being called away with no notice that is unlike anything else with
this job, and there is already enough stress with this job!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Oh well, off to make me some coffee and read
a book. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-72223612926880803652012-03-27T08:08:00.002-07:002012-03-27T08:08:50.380-07:00My melt down<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Yeah about that, sorry.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The stress of college and T-rex changing hours really must have gotten
to me. Oh who cares!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The point is I
ended up with an A not a D on that paper I was stressing out about, so I feel
like a dork.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Moving on. .<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">About T-rex and the motorcycle club!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He joined as soon as he got a bike; it was
something he wanted to do long before he even got the bike.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Oh and he got a Harley. . which I love. .. .
and I am not a bike person. Oh I really love the Harley! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Okay anyway, the club info right?? </span><a href="http://www.expendablesmc.org/"><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">http://www.expendablesmc.org/</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> look em
up on face book too, you will likely find a chapter in your state, if not start
one!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>T-rex started the chapter in our
state, and already has the 4 needed for a chapter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I guess I need to get “old lady”
patches.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But I will punch anyone who
calls me an old lady.. ..You have been warned. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Maybe I will get T-rex to write about the club soon. </span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-59822379369992790762012-03-24T01:20:00.000-07:002012-03-24T01:20:09.713-07:003:00 Am<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">So it is way too early, and I have not gotten any sleep yet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Why you ask?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Okay you didn’t really ask, but I am going to tell you anyway. I have NO CLUE! </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">But, when it gets so early like this and I can’t even think right I start to think crazy things. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Like T-rex joined a motorcycle club for Law enforcement.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And I still can’t get over how strange that is. I will fill you in when I can think!</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Or how I am still not doing well in History and I really wonder if I am cut out for this, but it is still all I want to do. Maybe it is just the stress that is getting to me and things really will not be that bad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Or maybe I really do stink and I should give up and run for some political office, they never seem good at anything.</span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">So I am sitting here feeling all sorry for myself and my bad grades before the class has even had a chance to end week one. I thought I would write some smart list of things I am “good” at, such as run on sentences; but then I thought I would write a list of things I really am good at, but after 10 minutes of nothing coming to mind I realized that we have created a society where good is not good enough. I am good at cooking pancakes, but no pro so I dare not list that. I am good at writing (past a 5<sup><span style="font-size: x-small;">th</span></sup> grade level) but no novel writer, so I cannot post that. I am good at understanding sociology and psychology but I am not a professional in that field so I cannot really list that either. We don’t give ourselves credit for the things we are good at; we only count it if we are like rock-star good. </span></div><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I might not be good at this whole history thing. I might have to work extra hard at figuring out what my teachers want, if they even know! But I know I am good at teaching, I know that I am good at knowing what I want to do. So it stinks, and I am likely to whine a lot more about bad grades and mean teachers, but I am going to keep going…….. As soon as I get back from my ride. </span>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-86453090680892896722012-03-09T05:52:00.000-08:002012-03-09T05:52:06.455-08:00School work and time with DH.<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri; font-size: large;">So, it’s like this, I stink at grammar, spelling, and general sentence construction. The really sad thing is I type like I write.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>..<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>.so I might, maybe sound like an idiot.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At least that is the impression I get from my history teacher. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hey, it is better than turning in my papers in 10 codes!<br />
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This session’s classes are coming to an end. And I feel like I can breathe. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I still have a few things to do, but I made it to the end!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If I can pass these classes I will be very happy.</span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: large;">With all the work I have been doing and DH switching shifts this last week things have been a little crazy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He got a motorcycle, and at first I thought it was dumb . . . but I love it!! I love going out with him and just getting away from all the stress.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think I might want to learn how drive myself. Then I realize that I can’t even drive a car really well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"><span style="font-size: large;">With his change in hours, and the kids’ school and activities we have gotten to spend some more time together, and even went to the store alone!!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don’t think we will do that much more.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is the worst Badge bunny ever at the store!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don’t usually get annoyed with people checking DH out, or even a little dorky smile is no big deal . . . but full blown flirting with my husband when I am right there!!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Oh this B.B. got on my nerves.</span> </span></div><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: "Arial","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-no-proof: yes;"><v:shapetype coordsize="21600,21600" filled="f" id="_x0000_t75" o:preferrelative="t" o:spt="75" path="m@4@5l@4@11@9@11@9@5xe" stroked="f"> <v:stroke joinstyle="miter"> <v:formulas> <v:f eqn="if lineDrawn pixelLineWidth 0"> <v:f eqn="sum @0 1 0"> <v:f eqn="sum 0 0 @1"> <v:f eqn="prod @2 1 2"> <v:f eqn="prod @3 21600 pixelWidth"> <v:f eqn="prod @3 21600 pixelHeight"> <v:f eqn="sum @0 0 1"> <v:f eqn="prod @6 1 2"> <v:f eqn="prod @7 21600 pixelWidth"> <v:f eqn="sum @8 21600 0"> <v:f eqn="prod @7 21600 pixelHeight"> <v:f eqn="sum @10 21600 0"> </v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:f></v:formulas> <v:path gradientshapeok="t" o:connecttype="rect" o:extrusionok="f"> <o:lock aspectratio="t" v:ext="edit"> </o:lock></v:path></v:stroke></v:shapetype></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I found this cute little thing from </span><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> <a href="http://www.leelofland.com/wordpress/a-cops-world-getting-the-facts-straight/"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman;">h</span><span style="color: blue; font-family: Calibri;">ttp://www.leelofland.com/wordpress/a-cops-world-getting-the-facts-straight/</span></a><span style="font-family: Calibri;">nice <a href="http://www.leelofland.com/wordpress/a-cops-world-getting-the-facts-straight/"></a>site too </span><span style="font-family: Wingdings; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-char-type: symbol; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-symbol-font-family: Wingdings;"><span style="mso-char-type: symbol; mso-symbol-font-family: Wingdings;">J</span></span></span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-68266149342123168782012-02-29T22:27:00.000-08:002012-02-29T22:27:29.028-08:00Where did I go?<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I hate posts that start out all “I am sorry for being gone.”</span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The truth is, Life gets busy, crazy busy. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I graduated College!!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have my degree in sociology.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yep! </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">And then I changed my mind. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am now going to a small Christian College, to get my degree in History Education. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">And it is crazy</span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Each class is only 7 weeks long. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And to get me going I am doing observations for two of the 3 classes this 7 weeks. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">It has been nonstop. As I write this I should be writing my 8 page paper on the USSR Space Race.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But let’s face it I need a break!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Did you know that in Russia the last name for Smith is Kervokseriesasderpkikasd?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yeah me either! (Disclaimer I don’t know if that is a real word in Russian, or if I am cursing some of my readers out or not...It is THAT strange for me).</span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Tests have to be proctored, each of my three classes require a million pages to read in 5 different books each week, and a 300-million page essay each week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is a lot!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">But the coolest part is T-rex supports me in all the way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We have no idea how we are going to pay for it; we have no idea if I am going to pass my first History class (the teacher grades REALLY REALLY HARD!)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But it is what I want to do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When I grow up . . ..when I grow more I so see myself teaching high school kids that it is okay to have guns, the old guys who fought some other guys said so!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am sure once I am done with college I will sound like I know what I am talking about, but sadly these classes are sucking all thinking power right out my head. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">T-rex said he loves what he does, and he would not change it for anything, and why should I settle just because it took me a little longer to find out what I really want to do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think he is right, one way or another I am going to do this, and if that means I don’t get to blog as much, or sleep, or watch TV, or read for fun, or clean the house, or cook meals for the kids, then who cares right?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>These first 7 weeks classes are almost done, and then it is right back to it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But I love it. </span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-63267311192373410122012-01-14T09:49:00.000-08:002012-01-14T09:49:24.270-08:00At the end of the day it is just a JOB.<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">There is a lot of talk about how being a cop is who you are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is more than a Job it is a way of life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Well as true as some of that is, it is also a bunch of poo. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">At the end of the day being a cop is just a J O B. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Don’t get me wrong it is a Job that touches every other part of your life, and can totally take over at times, and consume everything else if you let it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But it is still just a JOB.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">You are who you are no matter what JOB you have.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Not to say being a cop or being married to a cop doesn’t affect many other parts of your life. From what you cook, to how you spend family time. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">But that is the big issue. . . Family time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Too often the wife left at home is left to do it all alone. Maybe in a lot of ways that is “Normal”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The wife takes care of the house, and children, and such no matter if she is working or not. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Maybe it’s just more so in a police family.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I see wives who are consumed with the identity of “police wife” I see others who look at this just as a normal 9-5 job their husband has.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think there needs to be balance.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The guys need our support; they need to know their wife is behind them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They need to be able to stay focused on work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are things the “other half” can do to help. </span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">But there are things the cop needs to do alone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Turn off cop mode when coming home.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Go off duty when on vacations, or even out to eat in town.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But also, and more importantly would be to put family first. .<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>.all the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The responsibility for the children should never be only on the wife. . If she is working or not. It is not that caring for a child alone is physically, or intellectually exhausting <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(although it sure can be!)<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But it is emotionally draining.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Feeling trapped by the limits a 5 year old puts on your life is often times balanced by the rewards, but no one can feel trapped all the time without going nuts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Take this example. .. John is a cop.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He works strange long hours, and is sometimes the only one out on duty.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sarah is a nurse for a small hospital; she works with several other nurses all the time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Little Matt gets sick and has to come home. . Who would pick up little Matt? Sarah right?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yeah seems about right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So now Sarah has the stress of her job, along with the stress of having to go home, and the stress of little sick Matt, where SHE will be the one to care for him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Any job seems less important than that of the cop. . .But it only brings added stress into the family, and Sarah is the one doing it alone, because John is still off being a cop.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I am not saying I know what is right for every family, and in some families the wife being the one to care for the kids is really the best option, but there does need to be some balance, and the cop in the house needs to be a part of things. .<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>.no more single but married police wives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s a bunch of BS.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And if that was really the case it’s not worth it. Family needs to be something both people work on. <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Maybe Sarah does always take off work, but John always takes Matt to football, or the DR, or whatever it is. Maybe they all take turns and see what works best, but if Sarah is always rearranging her schedule and John is not, well then Sarah could be doing it alone.</span></span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1477827563310376749.post-32600263805635386142011-12-17T15:35:00.000-08:002011-12-17T15:35:51.315-08:0010 things I have learned this year:<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">1.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sitting on a house does not require a ladder. </span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">2.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Badge bunnies fall into one of three groups</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">a.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Stupid</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">b.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Young and stupid</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 1in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">c.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Creepy</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">3.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">If you say “I hope you are not late tonight” or in any other way refer to your husband being late, he will be late. </span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">4.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">College is a total pain, but so worth it</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">5.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">A strong support group is needed when life turns crummy.</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">6.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The general public does not understand anything about police work</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">7.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Friends will defriend you for defending the police. (say that 3 times fast)</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">8.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Your first date of the year is likely to get interrupted by a tornado, or criminal</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">9.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">When your husband starts to talk to a random guy and you have to question if it’s a fellow cop or ex-criminal it could go either way.</span></span></div><span style="font-size: large;"> </span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin: 0in 0in 10pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">10.</span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman"; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Spanish is hard, as it is one thing I didn’t learn this year that I should have. </span></span></div>Yellowhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01668354061174099488noreply@blogger.com3